7:11pm – Friday
I don’t have much to say today. I’m sure I thought plenty of thoughts, but I can barely remember what they were… Is that normal?
I did have to let go of someone I really adored last night. It wasn’t easy, but I promised myself that going forward, I would choose me in every situation, romantic or otherwise.
When I date, I am very up front about what I require. I believe that gives men the option to opt in or bow out. No confusion. No bait and switch.
I like monies sent.
I like gifts.
I like trips.
I like jewelry.
I love romantic effort and a man who yearns.
If I tell you that’s what I like and you choose to participate, you don’t get to later act confused, offended, or claim I’m “using” you.
And for the record – To be “used”, there has to be something substantial on the table. Real assets. Real provision. Real resources. Not a dinner here and there. Not chump change.
So when ask me, “Is money all you care about?”
The answer is YES. FN!
I’ve never pretended otherwise so why the shock? Why the moral crises?
Money isn’t shallow to me. It’s practical. Useful. It provides comfort, stability, and access. If you like me, wouldn’t you want me to live well? To have a place to wash my ass and rest? To look the way I do? To move through the world with ease?
All of that costs money and nobody will sit in my face, taking up space, time and energy.
I like having a roof over my head, food to eat, and a nice car to drive. I like buying the makeup that supports my style. I like maintaining the wardrobe I’ve built. None of these are secrets.
So if you claim to like me, why is it difficult to give me what you already know I value? Why is my love language suddenly unreasonable?
Because the truth is simple:
You do not like me.
And that’s okay for you but not for me. You will be moved around for someone that does.
Conclusion: Men who don’t spend money on you, outside of their own interests, do not like you. I know men with limited income who still go out of their way to give me what I ask for. Their generosity with me increases my attraction to them.
Remember ladies and sons of ladies:
If he wanted to, he would.
Only entertain men who want to and do.
- Seven